Today’s guest is Shane Weinbrecht. Shane is a jack of all community for Scale Computing. We discuss how Shane and I met through the community and what relationship building really means. His love for sharing knowledge with others is what drives him to continue being part of the technology community.
Family matters and having the support of them is crucial for being active and giving back to the community. Having loved ones understand that their is value for you spending your time participating . I tell a nice back story in how I left my wife on mothers-day one year when I was first making connections in the community.
Shane discusses that the personal impact is far more important to him then the professional benefits. How many online connections became “real” life connections become dear friends.
How has the community impacted your life? What are you not getting out or giving to the community?
Community & what it means to Shane
Support of family
The impact of connecting online/offline
Failing – If you do not try anything you are never going to fail.
The Will to Win, it is putting your mind on an objective and not giving up. This post is dedicated to my friend Sean Evans. Who is Sean?
Sean is a father, significant other, friend, a fighter. Fighting is an outlet for him, stepping into the octagon takes the will to win. Having known him for a little over a year I can say he truly has the will to win. Even in losses he stays focused and destroys himself on social media, he is his hardest critic. There is a valuable lesson you can all get from Sean and his will to win.
On June 10th 2017 Sean stepped into the octagon to fight. That fight went the distance, 3 five minute rounds. It went to the judges, Sean lost by Split decision. What wasn’t lost in this battle was Sean’s will to win. Early in the fight Sean broke his hand, yes you read that right broke his hand. Did Sean stop? Nope, he had a will to finish and go out there and put on a show. His will to win put the pain of a broken hand aside, now imagine where your job is to punch a person trying to pummel you and with each hit you are hurting.
How many would want to give up? Well seeing how I mentioned earlier that Sean went the distance in the fight not him. That is something he should be proud of, I sure am proud of him.
Something I noticed with Sean is a weakness, in a previous Morning Thought I discussed knowing your weakness. Now it’s not a bad weakness, it is what drives his will to win.
I know you are wondering how is his weakness driving his will, simple he is a fighter. The limits he pushes himself in training is insane, but he keeps it real, he talks about the struggles. How many go to the gym to walk on a treadmill? Sean does sometimes 3 hard training sessions from boxing, cardio and BJJ then finishes with hard sparring with some heavy hitters. He is conditioning his will to win for when he steps into the octagon.
If you take anything away from this post I want you to take away that you can do anything. I am proud of Sean for stepping in the cage, pushing the limits and not giving up. Are you having tough time at work on a project? Tell yourself you got this, have the will to win. Stay focused even if things get bumpy, you need to will to win.
You have to want something to not give up, to fight past adversity. If you are expecting things to just come to you, then change and start doing and making things happen. Sean trains hard everyday, be like Sean and push yourself in life and your job. By doing so your will to win is magnified and in life you already won.
Imposter Syndrome, what is it? I had just heard about this when my good friend Jonathan Frappier tweeted about it.
There is that imposter syndrome creeping up again
— Jonathan Frappier (@jfrappier) April 27, 2017
Frapp (as I call him) is one of the smartest guys I know. So what exactly is this thing that he was feeling?
Wikipedia defines it as – Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome or the imposter experience) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”
In short it means a person feels as if they are not worthy, or doubting their abilities. Also you feel as an outsider at times.
After that tweet I started to think about this topic more and more, it came up multiple times in my twitter feed from different people that I follow. But for me I found that I’ve have Imposter syndrome. I said it, while I am confident in my abilities, I doubt myself.
I spoke a little about Self-Awareness in a recent post and how you need to understand your weaknesses. The same goes for overcoming that feeling you get from Imposter Syndrome. There is another caveat to it though, you must know and own your strengths.
Be Positive – This is tough for many, especially when you have a sense of doubt or as if you do not belong. I call positive energy #NerdBlurtMojo. While I am not a huge religion fan I am a believer in energy. Staying positive keeps positive energy around you, this will help with that feeling of you do not belong.
You know what you know – One thing I have learned is I know a lot of stuff, I also know a lot of people. I do not need to know everything, I just need the ability to know when to ask for help. By owning what you know the sense of not belonging to a certain group is eased and you feel comfortable.
Tell yourself – Everyday speak to yourself and say it’s ok, I got this today.
Know your worth – Understand the value you bring, then demonstrate that value. If your current situation isn’t feeling right or you are not being valued then look for a different one.
Surround yourself with variety of people – To me this is important, you have to be able to accept all kinds of people. I love the fact that I do not agree with my peers on everything, I also enjoy the many conversations and deep discussions I have with those of opposing views than mine. End of the day we all have beliefs and values, being open and surrounding yourself with a diverse group of peers will help you feel that you are important and belong in a group.
I love TED talks and came across this nice playlist of talks. Head over there and give them a listen, as they cover a few areas that trigger Imposter Syndrome.
Understand that I struggle with this on a daily basis and know that you are not alone. I have to thank my friend Frapp for being brave and coming forward, had he not I may not have known what I suffer from daily.
Have you ever felt like you were experiencing Imposter Syndrome?
This is the fourth and final recorded live at the VTUG Winter Warmer event podcast, and it is a fitting one to say the least.
My original plan was to talk with Rebecca on becoming a newly minted female VCDX, for those that are unaware the VCDX is a tedious process to obtain filled with multiple certification exams followed up with an architecture design and defended against by a live panel. It is a huge accomplished in the VMware space, while to me personally I don’t see gender , however woman do have to go against unbiased or sometimes biased views in the world. So, seeing a smart lady not caring and continuing to go for what she wants and be a role model for other women is inspiring. I have two daughters, I want them to be inspired by other females to do great things.
Well, the recording went different, as Mike and Herb joined and the four of us had some awesome banter. That is why I record these to capture different conversations from all areas and view points.
Notice past the banter is the underlying story of how these three guests became friends; helping each other through some tough times, just laughing. It makes you think of how relationships are formed, relating back to episode one of Tech Stand UP.
It also is a testament to the virtualization community pulling together, the VCDX program has a great community support system. Both were undeterred by failing the panel defense.
Many do not like talking about is failing; while we all know people fail , many choose to not say anything. We focus so much on success despite there having been many failed attempts.
So give it a listen, and what secrets are you holding?
Community pulling together
Did you know that Rebecca was a female?
How not giving up and to keep trying
This week our guest is Jorge Torres a technology junkie with latin roots. While we share a passion for technology we also share a love for the New England Patriots. While attending the VTUG Winter Warmer the Tech Stand UP crew caught up with Jorge to discuss and answer some questions on Blogging.
Jorge just started his blog Kolkes.Com, where he plans on diving deep into virtualization and sharing with the world. As we know getting advice from people who have been blogging for years, definitely helps! That is exactly what we talk about in this weeks episode.
We walk through the journey of getting inspired by the content he consumed. This passion and desire to give back is what drove Jorge to start his blog. Being an engineer on a daily basis, he enjoyed learning from others but realized that by him creating the content he was able to remember the content.
A major trend is for new bloggers to have a senior or respected member of the community to turn too. Ariel Sanchez is that person for Jorge, with Ariel’s Latin community give back through the vBrownbag, gave him a rapport which turned into a trusted friendship and mentor.
This has me thinking, what inspires you?
Jorge’s first time appearing as a guest on a podcast
Discuss how he was inspired by the community blogs and presentations
Talk about different blog platforms available and where to start
Mentor – having someone in the community take you under their wing and provide guidance and accountability
Creating content that others have created is ok, as this allows for you to retain the information
Using blogs as a self repository on how you fixed a problem.