Today’s guest is Shane Weinbrecht. Shane is a jack of all community for Scale Computing. We discuss how Shane and I met through the community and what relationship building really means. His love for sharing knowledge with others is what drives him to continue being part of the technology community.
Family matters and having the support of them is crucial for being active and giving back to the community. Having loved ones understand that their is value for you spending your time participating . I tell a nice back story in how I left my wife on mothers-day one year when I was first making connections in the community.
Shane discusses that the personal impact is far more important to him then the professional benefits. How many online connections became “real” life connections become dear friends.
How has the community impacted your life? What are you not getting out or giving to the community?
Community & what it means to Shane
Support of family
The impact of connecting online/offline
Failing – If you do not try anything you are never going to fail.
Imposter Syndrome, what is it? I had just heard about this when my good friend Jonathan Frappier tweeted about it.
There is that imposter syndrome creeping up again
— Jonathan Frappier (@jfrappier) April 27, 2017
Frapp (as I call him) is one of the smartest guys I know. So what exactly is this thing that he was feeling?
Wikipedia defines it as – Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome or the imposter experience) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”
In short it means a person feels as if they are not worthy, or doubting their abilities. Also you feel as an outsider at times.
After that tweet I started to think about this topic more and more, it came up multiple times in my twitter feed from different people that I follow. But for me I found that I’ve have Imposter syndrome. I said it, while I am confident in my abilities, I doubt myself.
I spoke a little about Self-Awareness in a recent post and how you need to understand your weaknesses. The same goes for overcoming that feeling you get from Imposter Syndrome. There is another caveat to it though, you must know and own your strengths.
Be Positive – This is tough for many, especially when you have a sense of doubt or as if you do not belong. I call positive energy #NerdBlurtMojo. While I am not a huge religion fan I am a believer in energy. Staying positive keeps positive energy around you, this will help with that feeling of you do not belong.
You know what you know – One thing I have learned is I know a lot of stuff, I also know a lot of people. I do not need to know everything, I just need the ability to know when to ask for help. By owning what you know the sense of not belonging to a certain group is eased and you feel comfortable.
Tell yourself – Everyday speak to yourself and say it’s ok, I got this today.
Know your worth – Understand the value you bring, then demonstrate that value. If your current situation isn’t feeling right or you are not being valued then look for a different one.
Surround yourself with variety of people – To me this is important, you have to be able to accept all kinds of people. I love the fact that I do not agree with my peers on everything, I also enjoy the many conversations and deep discussions I have with those of opposing views than mine. End of the day we all have beliefs and values, being open and surrounding yourself with a diverse group of peers will help you feel that you are important and belong in a group.
I love TED talks and came across this nice playlist of talks. Head over there and give them a listen, as they cover a few areas that trigger Imposter Syndrome.
Understand that I struggle with this on a daily basis and know that you are not alone. I have to thank my friend Frapp for being brave and coming forward, had he not I may not have known what I suffer from daily.
Have you ever felt like you were experiencing Imposter Syndrome?
This is my first in what I am going to attempt at electronically doing what I do every morning. Cody Bunch started me on morning pages to get my mind and system into writing on a regular basis. For the most part I have done this. As of late I let excuses get in the way, very much like not going to the gym.
So now that you know quickly what these are
Last week Rebecca Fitzhugh during her Boston VMUG session talked about leadership qualities, there was one that stood out among the others Self-Awareness. Since then I realized I have failed myself with this blog, I have many thoughts and blog concepts that I just let excuses get in the way or laziness. I have had episode 6 of Tech Stand Up Podcast ready to go, however it just sits there.
This is my first attempt to change a weakness in myself, to learn from my failures.
In order to grow as a person in both your professional and personal lives, you need to truly understand where you are weak. Until you admit that you are not going to change. Understanding your limitations and what is holding you back from excelling is a great motivator to change.
One thing I find is that I am my own worst and hardest critic, I feel bad for my family at times. During dinner when I try a new recipe I am doubting things that I have tried. Now understand I am trying for with anything I cook multiple times – consistency. I want to know my food is not only tasting good but how can I repeat that over and over. I ask my wife and kids multiple times how it tasted, what can I change, thinking about it now it must bug them when I do it. However that is a weakness in which I need to be more assertive and confident in my cooking abilities and when in doubt I know the local pizza place’s number by heart. Seriously it is probably one of the few numbers I know off the top of my head.
Over the last 7 years I have failed at writing consistently, it’s a fact. That IS going to change. I am going to stop thinking of writing my book and actually start working on it. I have about two pages done so far, I started it last year.
By truly knowing and being self-aware with your weakness you can then start to actually make it a strength. Working on that or knowing when to ask for help to improve is crucial.
Here are a few things that can help you get started with overcoming your weakness
So what are some of your weaknesses and how have you started to combat them?
This weeks guest is no stranger to being recorded, I am joined by Stu Miniman Senior Analyst over at Wikibon and Cohost of theCUBE. Many may know him as an analyst from theCUBE, I know him as a good friend and mentor.
Stu and I go back to 2009 when I joined Twitter, he was a driving force to keep me engaged in the community. I would say it panned out well for myself. In this episode we talk about the early days of our social media and how contributing quality dialogue is more important then being noisy. This is something that I live by today, except for when the Patriots are playing, then all bets are off. What I enjoy most about talking with Stu can be heard in this weeks Tech Stand UP recording, we easily touch on any subject.
One topic in particular that we touched on was diversifying your social network communities. Are you in a echo chamber? Stu referenced this blog he wrote in our talk. It is important and you may not know where it could help you down the road professionally or personally.
Last we touched on Star Wars,I mean who doesn’t love a good conversation about Luke and Leia.
State of Social
Transitioning from Vendor to Analyst
My early days and his influence on my social journey
Working in your passion versus just working
Social Echo Chamber –
This is the fourth and final recorded live at the VTUG Winter Warmer event podcast, and it is a fitting one to say the least.
My original plan was to talk with Rebecca on becoming a newly minted female VCDX, for those that are unaware the VCDX is a tedious process to obtain filled with multiple certification exams followed up with an architecture design and defended against by a live panel. It is a huge accomplished in the VMware space, while to me personally I don’t see gender , however woman do have to go against unbiased or sometimes biased views in the world. So, seeing a smart lady not caring and continuing to go for what she wants and be a role model for other women is inspiring. I have two daughters, I want them to be inspired by other females to do great things.
Well, the recording went different, as Mike and Herb joined and the four of us had some awesome banter. That is why I record these to capture different conversations from all areas and view points.
Notice past the banter is the underlying story of how these three guests became friends; helping each other through some tough times, just laughing. It makes you think of how relationships are formed, relating back to episode one of Tech Stand UP.
It also is a testament to the virtualization community pulling together, the VCDX program has a great community support system. Both were undeterred by failing the panel defense.
Many do not like talking about is failing; while we all know people fail , many choose to not say anything. We focus so much on success despite there having been many failed attempts.
So give it a listen, and what secrets are you holding?
Community pulling together
Did you know that Rebecca was a female?
How not giving up and to keep trying